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Guys -- Appear Generous, Stay Selfish
By I. Glebe
Author of Points!: Women Have Them, Men Need Them

  Admit it; you're selfish. Not all the time, just sometimes, like when you have to share something. Not everything, just things you like.
Does this sound familiar? You and yours are eating dinner in some nice restaurant -- perhaps it is an occasion -- like your anniversary -- maybe her's also. You are concentrating on devouring your four pound lobster. Suddenly, she looks up from her tidbits of tilapia and spinach salad and offers you a taste. A chill runs through you -- you know what she wants -- your lobster -- perhaps a claw, maybe both claws.
You throw her a red herring and ask about her mother and the thing. You look down at your lobster -- only half left -- and you're saving the claws for last. You reach for your wine and subtly put a protective arm around your plate.
She, however, is relentless and seizes a quiet moment and offers her tilapia once again. You begin to shiver ever so slightly. You are trapped! You know it; she knows it. There is no way out -- so you politely, with a slight tremor in your voice, offer her a piece of lobster. You try to smile unselfishly -- knowing that you are a kind and giving person -- as nausea overtakes you as she snares a piece of meat and the left claw, which we all know is the tastiest of the lobster claws.
You can avoid this. Yes, you can be selfish without appearing that way.
Try this when she offers her tilapia (or before if you can read her tell):
 Appear generous -- stay selfish.

© 2008 I. Glebe

Author Bio
I. Glebe
is an ordinary guy. It is from this unique vantage point that he was able to uncover the secrets of relationships and how to make them work for you, even though you may not want to. Having experienced the best and the worst of seven marriages (including two of his own), he can safely say that he is as close to an expert in this stuff as anyone walking the planet.

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